Good morning, beautiful readers!
People often sing the praises of the therapy process, but Here’s What No One Tells You About Finally Healing Your Trauma.
“I’ve been very good at burying things I didn’t want to deal with. Dissociation and compartmentalization were two of my go-to techniques for dealing with emotions I couldn’t handle. All those boxes I packed away are open now, and it’s my job to go through them.
This is what baggage looks like. We all have it. We just don’t all deal with it.”
Writing about my experience in therapy isn’t always easy. I’ve been working through decades of trauma—painful parts of my past I thought I had dealt with already. Healing isn’t a linear process, however, and all my unhealed wounds caught up with me.
Later this month, I’ll have an article out about how healing trauma impacts future generations. Be sure to subscribe or follow me on Medium so you don’t miss it. Medium monthly membership fees ($4.99) go directly to paying the writers you support.
Here are some of the things I’ve written about this month:
Flipping the Script on Rejection
"It can be difficult to find a single reason to be grateful for the experience of rejection. As a human being and as a writer, I’ve experienced my fair share. It often doesn’t feel fair. It certainly doesn’t feel good. I can honestly say that my first feeling isn’t gratitude.
It’s not my second feeling either. Or my third. Gratitude is usually the furthest thing from my mind.
Yet, rejection can have a positive utility. If you’re anything like me, you need a silver lining when people are basically saying either (a) I don’t want you or (b) I don’t like your work."
A Swing and a Miss (a poem)
“He was easy to love
And easy to lose
I was harder to know
Even harder to choose …”
How a Show That Ended 6 Years Ago is Still Changing My Life
“Watching my own experience represented in a television series is a comfort I cannot fully articulate.”
Check out a few of these fan favorites:
“Claiming empathic tendencies highlights our resilience and strength without necessitating any healing work.”
Seven Things We Want to Say to Emotionally Unavailable Men
“Loving you is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”
The Danger of Emotional Bypassing
“It’s one thing to have our voice silenced by someone else, our grief compared to the vastness of their own. But it’s interesting that we are the ones most guilty of bypassing our experiences. We tell ourselves what we “should” be feeling rather than accepting all our feelings as valid.”
Thanks so much for reading!
Crystal