If you’ve ever wondered how you’ll know when you meet the right person, someone has probably told you that you’ll just know. It’s annoying, isn’t it? Is there anything more obnoxious than being told that you can’t possibly understand until the moment that you do?
After all, we like certainty and answers and things that can be deconstructed and then built all over again. We’re a Lego generation, tripping over the damn things because there’s no one way of living or one set of answers off which we can cheat. Having to figure it out for ourselves seems a cruel and unusual punishment.
I have found that soul mates do exist. It’s not just mythology, an urban legend passed from one mouth to the next as a balm to the single person. It’s a you-have-to-see-it-to-believe-it experience. Once we’ve met our person, every other person we once mistook as our own stands out as an un-soul mate. All the pieces fall into place, and we see clearly why nothing else worked out. How could anyone have worked out when they were not meant for us?
When it happens, when we finally know this thing we are told we’ll know when we do, we begin to release all our un-soul mates. We let them go- in peace and in love, or just in peace. We stop trying to hold on to them or to make the story of who we were with them mean anything other than what it was:
Every un-soul mate was just a lesson on the path to the life we were meant to be living, a person who helped shape us into the one we needed to be to love the person always meant for us.
We release them so that they can be free to live lives no longer intertwined with our own, to love the right hearts for them. We no longer save seats for them on the sidelines of our lives and instead make room for all that’s meant for us. We can let go because we understand the thing that we were missing when we were in that space between letting go of what was and accepting what is:
The things that are meant for us will always be ours, and we don’t have to force the right connections.
The right person helps us discard the narrative of the wrong person, the one we tried to fit into that space because we wanted so much to have answers or to feel loved or to at least not feel lonely.
Sometimes, we are the right person, taking up space in our own lives and finding them to be complete on our own. Sometimes, we are the right person and meet the right person, and we understand that the un-soul mate was never, ever going to be ours.
Releasing them becomes easy when once it was a struggle. We no longer feel like we’re giving up anything at all except the thing that wasn’t meant for us in the first place. We move on because we understand now that we were always meant to. Because we see the path and the pattern, and we can tell the difference between our lessons and our true love.
Good morning, Readers!
I hope you’re releasing anything that isn’t serving you this morning—whether that’s an un-soulmate, a grouchy mood, or even a substandard cup of coffee (you deserve better!).
This week is exciting! Enticing Journeys Book Promotion is holding a series tour for me from June 28th to July 2nd to spread the word about my Heart of Madison series. You might be seeing extra posts about each of the books in my series across social media. How can you help support the tour? Share the posts, and if you’re read and enjoyed my books, take a minute to head to Goodreads and Amazon to leave a quick review. Any kind word about my work can help other readers find it.
For Medium readers, there are several new articles posted this week. Here are just a few of my current and/or upcoming titles:
To the Beautiful, Vulnerable Humans of Online Dating
Love Survives the Relationship, But You Can Survive the Love
Improve Your Pelvic Floor With … Gaming?
NewsBreak fans and local residents may want to check out my latest article on new yoga classes available in town, easy and affordable ways to support the arts, and the latest on COVID in our county.
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That’s it for today, lovely readers! I wish you strong coffee, good books, and warm hugs. Go be amazing, and if you can’t be amazing, just be kind. That’s enough. :)
Crystal