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I can relate. We need renewal, and that won’t come in an Amazon box.

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I don’t believe that it is. I believe we have a responsibility to take care of it while we’re here.

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I would argue that even some of those jobs have meaning.

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I agree. It was a clarifying time for many of us.

That’s often true.

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Thank you for reading it. I’ve also found that to be a benefit that comes with age.

Right?? I know I ended up paying more for “free” shipping.

My Walk-In Closet Paints an Ugly Picture of Overconsumption

The World Leaves Us Wanting

Striving isn’t Thriving — and Other Things I Need to Remind Myself

Is it this one?

No, I read it thoroughly.

I love this perspective.

Christmas and Easter both have pagan origins and were adapted over time.

Thanks for including me! This is a great roundup, and I can’t wait to read them all.

Why Looking Back is the Key to Moving Forward

New Year Declarations: A Study in Hope or an Exercise in Futility?

Burning Bridges is Not a Boundary; It’s a Trauma Response

How to Live and Work with a Brain that Fogs and Freezes

Decentering Men: An Alternative to 4b

Better to Lose Him Than to Lose Me

Untethered in the Astral Sea

I love all of these but one-- romance novels.

Trashing Your Friend’s Ex is Trashy (Plus, Better Ways to Show Support)

From Disappointed Plans to Delightful Detours: Embrace the Unexpected

Why Nice Men Really Do Finish Last

Healthy Relationships Start with You

Learning to Love a Broken Heart

A Solo Holiday Season — By Choice and Not By Chance

When the Haters Keep Threatening Me with a Good Time

Choosing Hope Over Fear: A True Story of Courage and Community

When Screaming “Fire” Doesn’t Work

How to Love Someone with a Chronic or Invisible Illness

From #MeToo to “Me First”: Facing the Return of the Dark Ages

How Avoidantly Attached People Can Have Healthy Relationships

I’ll Never Shrink Myself Again — and Why You Shouldn’t Either

It’s Hard to Be Mindful When We’re Focused on Survival

The Value of Building Self-Trust to Recognize (and Avoid) Red Flags

One Day, You Won’t Need Your Walls

Flouting the Rules: The Freedom of the Feral Forties

Whatever the Weather

The Very Opposite of Missing Out: On Being Single in Society

Children and Political Activism: How to Educate, Not Indoctrinate

Accepting Help is Hard — Do Charity Workers Make It Harder?

This Fragile Line

Why I Stopped Holding Onto Love — For Good This Time

To Leave a Life To Have One

I absolutely agree that talk therapy and medication have limitations, but healing trauma is…

I truly relate to this.

Covert Covens and What They Tell Us About the Modern Witch

Predators Protected: How a Culture of Abuse Can Continue Out in the Open

One-Sided Relationships and How to Leave Them

Trauma Rewires Your Brain — So Does Healing

Every Fall, I Fall in Love

Grownups Need Birthday Parties, Too

Alone is Not as Lonely as Being Someone’s Secret

I Outgrew Rigidity and Impatience to Cope with Life’s Challenges

Apalachee on Our Minds

True Friendship Means Being Honest with Your Friend When You Don’t Like Their Partner

I’m Researching Bulletproof Backpacks for Elementary School

What I Wish Everyone Understood About Couples and Family Counseling

Your Picker Isn’t Broken

An Alternative to Asking How You Can Help When Someone’s Struggling

Why I Stopped Searching for the Needle in the Haystack

I feel this.

4 Surprising Things I’ve Learned from Working as a Delivery Driver

Normalizing the Messy Experience of Being Human for My Children

Why I Included My Son in the Period Conversation

4 Reasons We Keep Returning to Dating Apps We Hate

I Did Not Have “Chicken Tender” On My 2024 BINGO Card

5 Promises You Can Keep in a Romantic Relationship

Love in ADHD

Coffee Confessional

Searching for Glimmers in the Dark

Confronting My Complacency: On Learning to Curate an Intentional Life

Books Worth Reading

I Almost Trusted a Man Again—I’m Glad I Reconsidered

What Are We Supposed to Do When We’re Still Stuck in the Suck?

Impulse Screams “Fight for Love” But Intuition Whispers “Let Them Go”

Accepting People for Who They Are Will Change Your Life

8 Inspirational Life Lessons Harvested from My Garden

Having a Contingency Plan Partner Isn’t Micro-Cheating

Unknowable

8 Great Granny Hobbies for the Elder Millennial to Embrace

Searching for Glimmers in the Dark

What Your Relationships and Tornados Have in Common

These are great ideas!

A Person Who “Feels Like Home” Can Be a Red Flag for Relationships

You Don’t Have to Be a Predator to Be an Unsafe Man for Women

F*ck Love Languages: Clear, Direct Communication is Enough

7 Takeaways as a Woman Reading Serial Killer Thrillers

Falling in Love with the Idea of Him Helped Me Discover What I Want

How DOOM Piles Help My ADHD

5 Benefits of Backyard Chickens

I’m Too Busy: The Shield for Those Who Want Love But Don’t Know What to Do With It

Canceling Mean Girl Behavior: A Guide for Parents

How to Keep the Faith in a Dumpster Fire Dating World

The Relationship Between Reacting, Overreacting, and Gaslighting

Self-Care for an Election Year

Relationships Should Expand Your Life — Not Limit It

If You Have No More Love to Give, Why Are You Taking Anyone Else’s?

I’m Back with My Ex: Why This Time Will Be Different

Anyone Can Be Good at Relationships in Theory

A Pause Before the Climb: Take a Breath Before Rushing Off to Conquer the Next Goal

I agree, but it helps to make our own decisions based on what’s best for us and not what’s dictated…

No. To this entire uneducated comment.

Agreed. I appreciate that, too. The whole modesty culture is so demanding to women.

While it won’t entirely dismantle it, it’s one step forward.

Societal pressure?

Did you just answer the title without reading the article? Maybe at least read the last paragraph.

It would be good to see it more normalized

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I wish more people thought that way.

I think the commenter is very confused about what constitutes rape culture, the topic of this…

Conflict Avoidance Blocks Intimacy

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3 Things to Celebrate on Independence Day If You’re Mad at America

Could a Bra-Free Revolution Dismantle Rape Culture?

This is the problem with AI technology.

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It takes a lot of work to unlearn it. It's so ingrained in our society. Thank you for sharing!

I'm not sure this is true.

That's not how equality works, but thanks for jumping in and mansplaining it even though you…

This is so well said!

It doesn't matter if "women as a whole" don't think this way.

It's possible to learn necessary relationship skills even without the relationship.

I think it's less about it being too much work and more about those people being incompatible.

Sadly, many of them struggle to be alone.

Yes! I agree. I hope it can help the ones who are ready for change.

I actually appreciate the clarity and responses here.

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Agreed. It just shows us that they aren't a good match.

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Exactly. I've experienced rejection sensitivity, and I've found that the pause is invaluable.

Haha he didn't think you were old and wrinkly when he invited you to his hotel room, did he?

Yes! I've heard that one, too.

I agree. I love when people show up with respectful, thoughtful responses and not just lashing out…

It's funny that the attack often comes because they feel rejected.

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Exactly! And that's beautiful!

Right? I think they assume their tone hurts our feelings.

I'm so glad it helped.

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No one labels this as "pick me" behavior. At all. That's not what it means.

Saying something negative about women has nothing to do with a "pick me" attitude.

I'm so glad you could relate--but no longer live the "pick me" life.

I love that! Thanks for sharing it!

True, but there's something to be said for having a healthy enough relationship with ourselves to…

It's so important to cultivate a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves.

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Knowing that is key to changing it.

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I wish that for myself, too. But we did learn--finally. That still counts. Thanks for reading!

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I'm glad you're building up evidence that you're still capable and competent.

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Exactly! Sometimes, caregivers are projecting their own issues into the relationship and fail to…

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And that alignment is so important! I'm 42, but I also see this in my age group with dating.

Yes! Determining if someone has compatible values saves us all time!

I agree! Those core values are so important.

That's true!

Exactly! I don't think people-pleasers always realize that even a well-intentioned lie is a…

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Agreed! I learned that the hard way, too.

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Agreed. We just have to wait out the bad times and believe good times are ahead.

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I'm trying. I'm still here and moving forward.

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From what I've read, the MBTI isn't a strong personality indicator, but it does have a little…

It is funny that the people who experience this see themselves as victims of injustice.

That's why it's so important for us to focus on our own behavior and choices.

I agree. It can definitely be a learning experience if we're open to viewing it that way.

I'm glad this was helpful.

I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for reading!

Nursery Rhymes for Grownups

You Can’t Fix Him with Your Love and Good Intentions

Dating Cynic or Dating Realist: How to Self-Identify

Breaking Down the Infamous INFJ Door Slam

I’m in My Feral Era

An Abundance of Hardship is Not the Abundance I Wanted

What Their Dating History is Trying to Tell You

A Lack of Transparency is the Ultimate Bait & Switch in Dating

Got Chemistry? You’ll Need Alignment, Too

Learned Helplessness Undermines Our Power

To the Once-Delusional, Now-Disappointed Lovers

To All the Former “Pick-Me” Girls: I’m Proud of You

One Less Ghost

Three Popular Insults I Take as Sincere Compliments

When We Call Them Out, They Call Us Ugly

6 Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships

How Big Feelings Make Me Want to Fight, Fly, Freeze, and Fawn — All at the Same Time

Blame is the Game Where Everybody Loses

A Message to the Bare Minimum Man

The Bravery of Being: How Body Acceptance Demands Our Courage

Savoring a Succulent Season

How the Mediocre Man Has Given Rise to the Unhinged Woman

The Reason We Keep Telling the Same Stories of Love and Loss

13 Red Flags You Can Ignore — at Your Own Risk

When Your Strong Friend Isn’t Okay

Social Media Snooping: Why We Do It and How to Know When It’s Harmful

A Single Mom’s Guide to Surviving Summertime

When They Leave Before They Go

What’s Better Than Getting Your M.R.S.?

Clarification is Needed When He Says You Are the One

Relationship Advice to Ignore for Happier, Healthier Relationships

6 Things to Try if You’re Lonely — Before Joining Another Dating App

8 Things I’m Doing to Make My Inner Child Proud of Me

I Badly Want a Shelter Cat, but the Why of It Matters

Dispelling 3 Myths About Therapy

Forget Whoever I Thought I’d Be — The Real Flex is Embracing Who I Am

I’m a Mom — and I Don’t Like Mother’s Day

The Intelligence Has Never Been So Artificial

I’m Changing My Relationship with Expectation and Disappointment

I Don’t Want to Fix a Man or Be Fixed by One

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I found that it's a painful decision to make, but once made, it feels right.

You know I'm right! 🤣

I feel this!

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It truly does!

Agreed. I'd much rather have one happen organically or not at all!

Yes! I've learned to communicate about it when it happens and to be clear that it's a tendency I'm…

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That makes a lot of sense.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've never actually liked my name very much, and your comment has made me love it.

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I agree with this.

I had that happen.

The pressure is such a red flag!

You'll be ready when you're ready.

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Yes! I look at how much energy I poured into staying--as if showing more and more love could ever…

There's a learning curve, but we ARE learning.

That's a much better fantasy for sure!

Yes-- exactly this!

I once loved a delusion, too.

Sometimes, we just need the reality check.

I love that you have friends to travel with who are happy and enjoying life.

I couldn't resist a good pun!

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I really want a silkie one day!

I'm not raising them for meat at all.

Many people order theirs through the postal service.

I'll have eggs of my own, and I definitely support the idea of purchasing eggs from locals who care…

It's a beautiful thing! Thank you for reading!

I love visiting new places and trying new things.

It took me a while to make friends, but I started out by making myself feel at home.

That's a lovely point of view!

It really helped me get to know people by just being out in the community.

I'm happy you found it when you needed it. Thanks so much for reading!

I'm so glad to hear it! Thank you for reading!

Thank you! I have found that, too.

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I'm open to a relationship with the right partner, but I just don't seek it out or long for it.

It's a wonderful opportunity to make our lives what we want.

I love this!

Rightfully so!

I'm so happy to hear that!

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That's kind of you to say! Thank you so much for supporting my work!

Thank you! This has been my experience, too. My life is filled with love. It's a beautiful thing.

Exactly! I spent so many years waiting to be happy until XYZ happened. I don't do that anymore.

I love that perspective! Thank you for reading!

The Risk of Burnout is Real — So Are the Coping Skills to Avoid It

POV: You’re Starting Over in a New Town

That's a great idea! There are really so many benefits to it. :)

YES!!! That relationship made me sad.

Strange Things Happen When You Become Happy with Being Single

Rinse and Repeat is Not for Relationships

Living a Soulful Life — With or Without a Soulmate

Georgia’s Supreme Court Race Could Decide State Reproductive Freedom

For the Delusional Romantics in the Wrong Relationship

What In the American Dream Do You Mean?

Conducting a Relationship Postmortem Can Make You Better

The Wrong Relationships Can Convince Us That We Can’t Love

Leaving No Breadcrumbs Behind

They Said, Be Smaller. I Got Stronger Instead

7 Ways to Know for Sure We’ve Crossed into Red Flag Territory

After Years of Angst and Overwhelm, I Discovered a Path to Peace

That Time I Spent 22 Minutes on a Dating App and Then Deleted It

From Former Therapist to Current One: An Unexpected Journey

In Times of Scarcity, I Dreamed My Way Into a Life of Abundance

Falling in Love Requires a Different Skill Set Than Staying in Love

My Dreaming Self Remembers

On a Day of Hope, Once-Beloved Author Chooses to Die on the Hill of Hate

Learning That the Love of My Life Was Just a Lesson on Life

Needle-in-a-Haystack Dating Truths

You’ll Need Imagination to Live the Life of Your Dreams

I Protected His Heart When I Should Have Been Protecting Mine

ISO: Rest and Relaxation (In Exchange for One Hustle and Grind Lifestyle)

How to Do a Spotify Oracle Reading

Thank you!

Ostara or Easter: 15 Ways to Celebrate the Coming of Spring

While You Were Quietly Quitting

My Weight Loss Injection Diary: Knowing When to Quit

Fluff, Feathers, and Learning to Fly: Thoughts on Being a Chicken Lady

Imitation of a Scream

If My Heart Had a Check Engine Light, It Would Be On Right Now

The Past is Present — and What to Do About It

The Past is Present

Relationship Lessons I Learned the Hard Way so You Don’t Have To

Three Things to Ask Yourself When You Stumble Across a Trigger

When You’re Missing Them, Here’s What You Need to Remember

The Real Glow-Up is Wishing Them Well

9 Things I Learned as a Trauma Survivor to Help the Next Generation

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How I Met the Love of My Life

7 Weird Things I Learned Trying to Shop for Chicks Online

16 Best restaurants in Athens, GA — According to a Local

Mona Lisa’s Secret Life

I'm also divorced, and I agree. I'd rather be happy single than miserable and married.

I get that.

Yes! This is my experience.

Yes! I do find that men have a tendency to take over.

Yes, exactly!

Yes! It was strange how I held on for so long because of how much I loved while not feeling loved…

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Medium isn't answering.

I'm having the same experience.

I read an article by someone who works for Medium who said that they are now more profitable than…

I think both approaches can work.

I don't mind choosing based on attraction as the first layer of the decision, but I don't like that…

I think it works better when someone knows both people well and can see the potential match.

I'm glad it was accurate for you.

Exactly this!

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Agreed completely! I don't want to be a closed off person who doesn't fully experience life.

If the demons are me, and I'm wearing the pajamas ... it works.

Thank you! It's been a growth experience for sure, but I'm happy with being the mess that I am.

Many women are seeing that marriage doesn't benefit us in the ways that it benefits men.

Thank you! It took me a while to get here, but I'm happy.

This sounds like an ideal arrangement when you're both happy, healthy, and busy with life.

Exactly! Especially when we've done the work of maturing and healing.

I don't think long-term relationships are a thing of the past, but I agree that marriage seems…

Those last lines-- highly relatable!

I've found this to be true. Any time my friends disliked a partner there was a good reason.

I don't think I saw this clearly before going through trauma recovery myself.

It can help when everything else fails to be effective.

That's a long time to deal with someone like this.

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Tell Your Broken Heart that Love Is Infinite

I Was Here

Haha that’s great!

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That doesn’t mean you’re intuition is wrong.

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Agreed. But too many people value chemistry and don’t examine compatibility.

That’s a great way to look at it!

Some of us learn the hard way (it’s me, lol).

I agree. There’s magic in that sort of resonance with another person.

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I believe compatibility and passion can coexist.

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That’s so true!

I agree. It’s so important!

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So many people underestimate the power of friendship.

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Okay. Thanks for sharing that information.

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I love that saying!

It’s okay not to want that relationship or to have outgrown it.

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I did EMDR therapy to address my trauma.

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I agree completely.

It just takes time. And most humans seem to have little patience (myself included).

I’ve also started with somatic poses. It feels right for this part of my journey.

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Completely agreed! I’ve been there, and I am much happier single.

I think it’s beautiful to build love that way. There’s a stronger foundation for the relationship.

Thank you for reading it!

I agree. It’s a process. An ongoing one. We never truly arrive.

That’s lovely!

I agree, particularly with the long distance element.

Agreed. Between my hormones and my medication, it’s an uphill battle.

You’re most welcome!

Exactly this! I’m tired of being preoccupied with it.

Thank you for the encouragement!

Thank you!

Thank you for including me here. I appreciate it!

Agreed completely

It’s hard to maintain a relationship with someone who insists on doing this.

Agreed.

Yes, exactly!

I had that same privilege until I developed a chronic illness.

Thank you!

Those are great guidelines!

Thanks for including me here and for sharing these stories!

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I appreciate that.

It’s been life changing for me.

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These are true friends!

That’s wonderful!

Exactly! It’s far easier than dealing with that emotional turmoil.

I agree wholeheartedly.

I think more women are stepping into this headspace (and heart space) and finding it peaceful.

That’s such a great quote!

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That’s kind of you to say. Thank you for reading it!

It takes time. It took me far longer than I thought it would.

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Yes, exactly. I keep the focus on my journey because it’s the only one I can tell.

I love that!

Mothers are discharged before babies in the NICU.

I’m not sure how this is relevant to the poem.

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The Breathtaking Beauty of Being Single

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7 Weird-But-True Benefits that Come from Enduring Hardship

My Weight Loss Injection Diary: The Downside of Encouragement

I’m Still Haunted by Loss No Matter How Fast or Far I Run from It

Is Looking for Love a Waste of Time?

I’m a Yoga Teacher, and I Stopped Doing Yoga

The Time Capsules We Never Dug Up

5 Things I Stopped Doing to be Ready for a Healthy Relationship

The Key to Staying Friends with Exes

It is obnoxious and invasive! It also displays massive immaturity. Thanks for reading!

Thank you for reading! It gives me hope when I can find glimmers in the process.

Yes. Some things really are better left unsaid.

Yes, exactly!

The Many Ways We Pay When We Choose Chemistry Over Compatibility

Finding Joy in the Weeds

Agreed. It’s not funny when it takes aim at others. It’s just mean.

That sounds like a healthy policy!

Thank you!

As far as relationship inequity goes, I agree with you.

Thank you!

Thanks! I really like using stronger as a metric or health rather than “lighter”.

I believe that meaningful discussion doesn’t involve playing devil’s advocate.

I can’t unpack this for you.

But that’s fun too! I love the process so much.

I can understand that!

Thank you for reading!

I think asking people to play this role is far different than when someone does it without being…

That’s terrible!

It’s possible to ask questions and discuss processes without playing devil’s advocate.

Once again: “Experts have also clarified that taking the position of devil’s advocate when we don’t…

You’re most welcome!

I think you missed my point.

You would think so, wouldn’t you? It’s ridiculous!

I never realized how much fun the planning process can be.

Exactly! We should be able to have full lives whether we’re single or partnered.

I’m sorry. That’s not easy timing.

It can help for a while before it becomes counterproductive.

I agree. I don’t know anyone who ever chose someone purely because of height, even if it was a…

I think it always helps to have an average, natural picture in the mix for both men and women.

I hope that’s the case. Thank you for the encouragement.

You’re making a lot of assumptions about women looking for a husband.

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I’m so glad it helped. Thank you for reading!

That’s how I see it, too. Thanks so much for reading!

I can understand how that happens. I hope you find your hope again when you need it.

Thank you!

Thank you!

Thank you! That’s very kind.

It’s interesting that people claim to want honesty but then don’t know what to do with it.

It really does take time.

I’ve got to stop looking at the number and paying better attention to how I feel.

I’m glad you’ve found a strong support system and a way to help others.

I can understand that. You have to protect your boundaries. Thank you for reading!

I’m not sure how it extended beyond Catholicism, but I don’t see that any of us have benefited from…

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I understand what you’re saying, but it still involves the assumption that the other person hasn’t…

It’s frustrating, and it’s not okay. Thanks for reading!

Yes!! This!

Thank you!

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Thank you! That’s kind of you to say. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

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The Worst Timing For Breakups Revealed by Experts

Painful, but true.

My Weight Loss Injection Diary: One Month Down, Progress Report

Thank you! I hope you enjoy your weekend, too.

There’s just a lot to unpack here.

Self-care is healthy, not selfish.

Yes, exactly.

I can relate to that. I did the same. It’s a growth process.

You are so welcome!

I thought about that, too.

It’s not relevant.

In my experience, avoidants are more likely to love bomb to obtain the relationship before…

I appreciate that. I hope it helps someone else going through this.

That’s entirely possible. Life can surprise us. Thanks for reading!

Thank you!

It’s a common experience.

It’s nice to have a break from the work of it. Rest is productive too.

I believe there is!

Haha I love that!

Romanticizing Past Connections Serves a Surprising Purpose

It’s possible to feel disappointed without taking rejection personally.

You’re most welcome!

You’re most welcome!

It sounds like you protected your children from her and parented them differently.

Worse— in dating profiles.

Thank you! I appreciate that.

I’m doing milkweed too. I’m so excited to get started.

I’m sorry you experienced that. It’s not okay.

That’s not at all true. It’s also not about inherent worthiness, only compatibility.

It is, but it’s equally important to acknowledge what qualifies as abuse and not to minimize it.

That’s why I’m planting indoors instead.

I’m going to start some of mine soon.

I can understand that.

I’ve seen those! That’s such a good idea!

Thank you!

Thank you!

It would make things so much easier.

Thank you! I’m hopeful. ❤️

I love that so much! I’m glad you found a safe love.

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Right? I see that a lot, too.

You’re most welcome!

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With that kind of legal entanglement, maybe you just have to leave it up to the lawyers to sort out…

I literally wrote an entire article answering this question. Did you read it?

Absolutely. I got this one a lot!

I’m so glad this found you when you needed it!

I’m so glad that’s been helpful for you!

I’d prefer not to give more personal examples.

Thank you for your kind words and for reading it!

You’re most welcome!

I feel like I’ve explained my rationale in the article.

The earlier, the better.

Exactly. At least I don’t feel like I’m wasting my time that way.

I’ve noticed that too. If the hairstyle or picture are dated, what else are they hiding?

Thank you!

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts — and for reading!

Thank you!

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Thank you for including me here! I appreciate it.

Here are a few books I’ve read recently that I recommend: Maame, The Unmaking of June Farrow, and…

That’s understandable.

It’s a good theory. I can see that.

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Thank you for reading it! I wish more people were aware of this.

Thank you!

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That’s true, but it’s still about compatibility.

Thank you!

Thank you for saying so, and thanks for reading!

Sadly, there are people who just don’t learn effective communication skills.

It’s stressful to even be a bystander to that negativity.

Thank you for reading it.

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Thank you!

Thank you! I appreciate that!

Thank you!

You’re most welcome!

I also work from home and live in a small town. It seems like the best option until I try it. lol

It really doesn’t. I hate that longevity is the standard measure.

That’s kind of you to say. Thank you for reading them!

I agree

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Thank you! I appreciate that.

Thanks for sharing! It can be a powerful tool.

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I agree. As we develop more self-love, we tolerate less of this.

Thank you!

Right? This needs to be the standard.

You are most welcome! Thanks for reading it.

It’s a favorite quote of mine.

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Yes, exactly! Thank you for reading!

Thank you for reading! I appreciate your insightful comment.

Thank you, Peter!

I agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

I understand that completely. I don’t feel like anything is missing. I’m enjoying my life.

Thank you for reading it!

Thank you!

I agree. And it’s so important to do!

Exactly this! Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for sharing this.

I’m glad the timing worked out for you.

I hope so too!

I love that!

I agree completely.

I’ve had that happen, too.

I think that’s the best thing we can do. Everything else will fall into place.

I can understand that.

Thank you for sharing that!

That sounds really frustrating!

Thank you so much!

Thanks for reading!

I truly feel like dating would improve if more people were self-aware and did the work to heal.

Thank you for reading!

Yes, exactly. This is the goal!

I agree.

Yes, exactly! That’s how I feel about it.

Thank you for contributing to the discussion!

I’m sorry you’re going through that! Hugs from here ❤️‍🩹

It’s great when we reach a point where we realize that they’re “too much” is a projection of their…

Thanks for reading!

I don’t necessarily see people like that as leftovers.

Right? I think it’s a projection of their own insecurities, but it doesn’t represent what’s…

He recommended keeping fruit to a minimum.

Thank you for reading it!

You’re most welcome! It helps to know we’re not alone.

Thank you!

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It does seem impossible. I’m in a small town, which doesn’t help things in that regard.

That’s terrible— and possibly underreported.

Thanks for including me! I truly appreciate everything you do!

I appreciate your support! I’m just trying to do what feels right.

That’s sad. Emotional abuse is far too common and does so much harm.

It caused massive diarrhea for the rest of the night.

It’s a great service and a good supplement source of income. Thanks for reading!

Thank you for reading it!

That’s true.

It truly is. Thanks for reading!

I appreciate you reading it!

Thank you!

I’m in my 40s, and that’s all relevant.

I don’t mind a groomed beard… but the mustache, the chin strap … I have questions.

I’m glad you found it when you needed it! ❤️ Thanks for reading!

Congratulations! I’m happy for you. I’m so glad to hear you waited for the right person. ❤️

I understand that.

😂😂😂

You put that perfectly. Well said! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I feel this way about weird facial hair.

I’m glad that you’re enjoying your single state and have so many supportive friends!

It really is. Thank you for reading!

That’s a very good point! Why is one worth the time and the other isn’t?

Thank you so much! I appreciate that.

I think so, too. Until then, I like the life I’m shaping. Thank you for reading!

Thank you ☺️ and thanks for reading!

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Trauma can also make our read on situations unreliable.

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Patriarchal systems hurt men too. Stigmas around men, emotions, and mental health don’t help.

It might help to read about invisible privilege.

It made me laugh! 😂

You’re right. Thanks for the reminder!

It’s that easy. I don’t care about the hat thing unless allllll the pictures are with one.

I don’t think you speak for all men.

Exactly!

I don’t need luck.

It’s not the same thing. This is about invisible privilege.

Progress is coming even if it makes you uncomfortable.

This isn’t outdated. Your thinking is.

That’s a great idea!

I really want to put one in my neighborhood. I love them so much!

I know exactly what you mean. Being a good partner in a relationship is a skill set all its own.

Thank you for reading it!

Money might not secure happiness, but living without it can certainly create more stress, greater…

Thank you.

I can’t say I recommend the experience, honestly. Thank you for reading it.

I hear this a lot.

Thank you!

Thanks for reading!

Thank you

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Agreed. Thank you for reading!

I truly hope so too.

It really doesn’t. I mulch with leaves too.

Thank you!

True enough.

Haha we have plenty of our own here!

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I adore that! Thank you for sharing it.

Thank you!

There’s no such thing as “woman splaining”.

Thank you for reading it!

🤣 even better!

That’s also true.

I still think a good friend should be honest.

I think you underestimate the power of social norms and conditioning.

Thanks for reading!

Highly recommended! Knit away. lol

I love that!

Mine too!

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Thank you for reading it. It’s a journey. You’ll get there. Hugs until then!

Both, I’m told.

Exactly! It has to make the shift to stick.

You’re most welcome!

Thanks for reading it!

It’s a very entertaining impulse, if not exactly practical. 😂

Thank you!

I agree. It’s why communication is so important in relationships.

Thank you for reading it!

Thank you!

I’m so glad he had that support and that you continue to have it.

Yes, precisely!

I agree. Angry people are often unhappy. I was surprised by the response, too.

Your response shows that you don’t understand feminism at all.

I didn’t say that.

It’s a great idea! Then we just need an accountability friend who will hold us to it.

That’s interesting! I’ll have to check that out. Thank you!

The patriarchy is a system.

That works too 🤣

Thanks for reading!

Thank you!

That’s true enough.

It’s a mystery. I would suggest that societal norms are a factor.

Agreed. And many women don’t have a height preference.

It sounds like it might be time!

Thank you for reading!

Yes, exactly. Thank you for reading!

It is a lot! Who can afford that?

I’m so glad you’re doing that.

Sadly, many of them do.

Thank you for reading it and sharing your thoughts!

Swimming with sharks is on my list!

Thank you!

Thank you for reading it!

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Probably because weight is a number that doesn’t tell you anything about how someone carries it.

It is standard here.

Why can’t someone in those fields also be eloquent with the written word?

I love that for you!

I don’t mind overcoming obstacles, but I’d love to have less of them.

Haha 4 common ones anyway!

Thank you!

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Haha Very likely!

Agreed!

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Yes 👏🏻 The cheaters make it so much worse than it needs to be.

Thank you for reading it!

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That was my issue, too.

Thank you! It’s off to a good start at least.

Every word of this!

You make a valid point.

It’s pretty standard right now.

I agree. With the exception of abuse, there is no reason.

They often can be!

That’s an interesting opinion since all the women I know are self supporting and have never relied…

Thank you!

Yes to all of this!! It’s a tough way to learn, but we do get so much better from learning it!

Thank you!

I have many women friends, and we don’t gossip, complain, or any of that.

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Yes!!!

Thank you!

Thank you for reading them!

Agreed. That’s exactly how I feel.

I love it!

Thank you!!

I can see that.

I’m glad you have friends like that in your life.

Same here. I don’t find myself attracted to them anymore. 😆

Thanks for letting me know! I’ll see if I can get that fixed.

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It would be.

I’m so glad it came to you when you needed it. Hugs from here!

Feel free to contribute your own.

I can see that. How unfortunate that they cut them off from a wealth of support!

It certainly doesn’t help.

That’s well-said. It’s a significant problem that could use a solution.

Exactly! It’s certainly not a characteristic of emotionally healthy partners.

I’m glad you were able to move on.

I hope so, too.

They’re absolutely wonderful! I’m grateful we have more options now, too.

You’re welcome! I love having salad and herbs year-round. It’s very low-maintenance, too.

It’s possible. I hope it heads in that direction.

I agree. The dating culture can be toxic. It doesn’t have to be.

Thanks for reading!

Thank you!

Not all men, right?

Yes!!

Friends are such an important part of our lives. But honest ones are an absolute treasure!

Thanks so much! I appreciate it. I enjoy having discussions about these ideas.

I’ve never seen an ad like that.

It’s such a common experience, isn’t it?

Absolutely! Avoid at all costs!!

I’d love to see the culture shift to encourage men to talk more openly.

Thank you!

It’s sad that homophobia keeps men from enjoying more fulfilling relationships.

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That may be true. Thanks for reading and contributing to this discussion!

There’s nothing about this that implies I’m sitting on a fence, thanks.

Thank you!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

I feel the same way. It’s so much lonelier without friends.

I’ve seen the occasional close male friendship, and it truly is beautiful.

That’s kind of you to say! Thanks for that. I’m glad you found a strong partner and appreciate her!

I used to have problems with stairs.

I’m glad you were able to get out of that situation.

We can really suffer from comparison without realizing that no one’s life is as good as it looks…

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I think so, too.

You’re most welcome! Thanks for reading!

Hugs from here! I’ve been there,

There are people who do this habitually who have both empathy and affection — and still don’t take…

Thank you for reading it!

I can understand that. The confidence issue can be problematic.

I find that our standards are usually too low rather than too high.

Thank you for reading!

Thank you!

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Thank you!

I agree. People say it’s a numbers game, but it’s not really.

Because women are more in danger when they’re financially dependent on men.

Thank you! I appreciate that.

Agreed!

Thank you for taking the time to do so and for contributing your thoughts!

Every little thing isn’t abuse.

Maybe we should all lay our cards out on the table at the start. I usually do

That’s so true!

Thank you, and thanks for reading it!

Thanks for reading!

Thank you!

I think there’s a better understanding of abuse now.

Absolutely! Hard truths can be delivered kindly. No need for brutality.

Yes! It’s such an ugly thing to do and is absolutely abusive.

There are plenty of other things to share.

Thank you for reading it!

Your book probably has readers just waiting for your experiences and wisdom!

Yes!!! 🙌🏻

Thank you!

I’m so glad to hear it helped! Hugs from here!!

Thank you for reading it!

Thank you!

I had a friend help me get more organized.

I didn’t mention longevity. I mentioned happiness.

Serious relationships exist without “children, shared finances, common living.”

Agreed

Thanks for reading it!

I think taking a break can be good regardless if we’re getting a lot of dates or none at all.

I think the initial deception is a red flag.

That’s also possible!

I honestly love stockings.

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Wise choice!

I saw a meme of a woman by a river saying that she was going to stop any man from taking a picture…

I agree completely.

Live creatures should never be a surprise pet to someone who wasn't expecting one!

Friendship is so important to our quality of life. I do feel very lucky in my friends.

I feel the same way.

Right? That's so true! Best friends stay even when boyfriends leave.

They really do! The friendships get us through all the hard things.

I'm glad you're making some progress.

I love that!

Right? I'm pretty sure I've been a George Bailey for a lot of my life.

I've been looking at this year like it was awful, but there were so many incredible things that…

Thank you!

It can be detrimental if we don't ever start looking forward.

Thank you!

Thank you!

Yes! There are many people who say they want an equal partner who doesn't play games, but their…

I agree. Too many people are living for the what ifs of life.

When people say that now, I'm inclined to say "thank you" and move on.

Why would women take a menial job after marriage?

Exactly. Those attachment issues really are lifelong struggles.

Thank you for sharing this!

It's such a great quote!

Thank you!

Right? These are the guys who can't handle emotion or the hard things that happen in life.

Thank you. Partners who can't meet them just aren't compatible with me.

Thank you for reading it!

Thank you!

Thank you!

I agree. A larger dating pool isn't necessary. Sounds crowded, doesn't it? :)

I understand that.

Don't give up!

Agreed. It's so important!

Thanks! Right now, I'm happy being my own someone special. :)

Thank you!

Agreed. It definitely narrows the selection to people I would actually consider datable in terms of…

It is. But more single women are reporting happiness than married women overall.

That's what I've decided to do.

I love that! You're lucky to have found that. Thank you for reading!

That's true.

Right? I agree.

Thank you!

Or, conversely, both parties have unhealed issues that attract them to each other.

I agree that like attracts like to a certain extent.

That last line though 🤣 You're not wrong!

Every word of this!!!

Every word of this!

Men aren't less complicated.

But it doesn't work.

Every single time!

Every time I'm referred to as an Elder Millennial, I feel like I should have a staff like in Lord…

Yes-- exactly!

Thank you, Fred!

Married women living longer doesn't have anything to do with happiness or life satisfaction.

See my comment above.

If you read the full article, he maintains that "The substance of my argument that marriage is…

I think it makes me undatable to some, but you're right-- the right person won't find any of this…

I feel like it's mostly a matter of chance, opportunity, and timing to meet the people who see our…

There can be serious relationships that don't involve marriage.

Thanks for that!

Thank you!

Thank you!

I got out at the earliest possible time, believe me! It was awful.

Thank you for reading it.

Hugs from here! Thanks for reading

Thank you for reading it! Hugs from here.

It is one of the worst things we can do in relationships.

Very!

That title gave me chills! I'll have to check it out.

I feel like we've all done it, but have we all learned from it?

How we hold them accountable matters, but some people interpret any feedback as shaming and shut…

It does. And for many people, they are functioning in chaos because they don't realize that what…

I'm sorry that happened to you.

Thank you!

Thank you!

It usually does.

Thanks for reading!

Thanks, Nicole!

You're most welcome! It really was a wild year!

I love that!

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