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I also recommend EMDR as a survivor of chaos and trauma. It changed my life. Great read!!
I’ve also been shopping more in the last couple of years.
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Thank you so much for writing this!
You seem to have missed the point.
This is a lot of misogyny to unpack!
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An opinion of a man isn’t relevant when it comes to a woman’s experience of something like this.
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This doesn’t seem relevant to the article.
Thanks for taking the time to read and leave a thoughtful comment, Tom!
Exactly! Still, I hope a few of them found it illuminating.
It really hasn’t. It’s out there, but it’s not at all prevalent.
This is so true, and it’s a fact I continue to be grateful for. Thanks for reading and commenting!
Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!
Thanks for listening to what was being said here and acknowledging how it might be harmful to many.
Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to leave a thoughtful comment!
Thanks for mansplaining and tone policing my work. Cheers!
No, millions of women are assaulted over their lifetime.
Yet, you are here objecting, not your wife.
I’m not in the habit of blocking comments, although I do report ones that fail to observe Medium’s…
As I stated in the article, it’s completely possible to communicate interest, even sexual interest…
Holy misogyny! I simply don’t have time to unpack all this, but may I recommend a therapist?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond so thoughtfully.
Way to miss the point! May I suggest reading for comprehension next time? Cheers!
You came, you read, you learned nothing, you continued to perpetuate an action that is harmful to…
Saying it to each other is locker room talk (rape culture).
Thank you-and thanks for taking the time to read and comment!
Wow. Thanks for mansplaining this to me.
Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment!
That’s a bit pedantic, but okay.
You’re within your rights to disagree, and yet I am one woman among many who are loudly saying IT…
Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment!
Thank you. I hope this has been illuminating for many. Thanks for taking the time to comment!
There are many women who enjoy casual sexual relationships, but that doesn’t mean the term isn’t…
Thank you for taking the time to read and weigh into this discussion!
…an enlightening article? Thank you for reading!
I’m not disrespecting the freedom of others.
I’m hoping that he learned from it.
I’m not suggesting anyone stuff down their natural sexuality.
Thank you. I’m glad I was able to bring attention to this important issue. Thanks for reading!
I did respond directly to him and kindly informed him that I know he meant it as a compliment but…
It seems to have failed at the first.
So dumb, in fact, that you took the time to both read and comment.
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If you really believe that, you’re completely out of touch.
This example doesn’t make sense.
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Thanks so much for reading, James, and for taking the time to leave such an insightful comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read, comment, and learn from it. It's appreciated.
Thank you for reading and for taking the time to comment!
This is incredibly common. For many, it happens at a much younger age.
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!
Exactly. Thanks so much for taking the time to leave such an insightful comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! It's appreciated.
Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment!
No, I can claim that it happens more to women because it does happen more to women.
Thank you. I don't strive to be either.
Thanks so much for reading and for taking the time to comment.
Exactly! Every word of this! Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I agree wholeheartedly!
People aren't afraid to go there.
Thank you! And thanks so much for taking the time to comment, too.
Agreed. Most women I know don't have a problem with a compliment.
This is a lot of mansplaining my experience and tone policing how I am meant to react to it.
I see your reasoning in wanting to keep this comment among the boys, but it would be so much better…
It's so pleasant--and so rare! Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Agreed. It's important to treat others with respect rather than objectifying them.
Thank you for taking the time to comment!
Thank you so much for reading!
I'm not screaming bias, but you are wrong.
You're most welcome. Thanks so much for reading!
Exactly that. Thank you for reading and for taking the time to comment!
Yes, I would be happy to never again be told by a man to smile.
Yes, exactly. Thanks so much for reading, Ann!
In my opinion, it's one of the worst songs I've ever heard on a number of levels.
As a former therapist whose name isn't Karen, the phrase "impact matters more than intention" has…
I do appreciate the self-identification, but I hope this article serves as a reminder to others who…
The modern feminist movement seeks to end rape culture and promote equality to all.
I can respect myself and also find this behavior abhorrent. Thanks so much for reading!
It's not a pleasant abbreviation, and I hope to see the day when it isn't commonly used or accepted.
I've no idea how to respond to this, but thanks for reading!
I no longer consider this person a friend.
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And, yes, cougar is an equally offensive term.
Feminism is believing in gender equality.
Agreed! It entirely changed my perception of that person — particularly as his response to my…
I’m sorry this happened to you, too! Thank you so much for reading!
This is a key difference between being objectified as a man in a patriarchal culture and being…
Agreed. It’s all around offensive, and yet you can see by many of the men in the comments section…
I think everyone deserves kindness and respect.
It absolutely means something demeaning.
Once again, there's a difference between objectifying women inside a patriarchal society and…
Thank you! I agree whole-heartedly with all that you've said here.
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It really is! Thank you for reading!
I am also a sex positive feminist, and I still think dehumanizing language is best avoided.
It is certainly relevant in America where its use continues to promote rape culture and misogyny.
Thank you so much for reading!
I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself.
It was eye-opening in the worst possible way, but I'm glad it at least created an opportunity to…
I know it exists, but I haven't heard it used in my life. MILF, I hear often. Thanks for reading!
I doubt he forgot the meaning. Thanks for reading!
It should be self-explanatory, but it's sadly not. Thanks so much for reading!
The book is charming and adorable, and your comment fails to address the degrading nature of the…
I would argue that social media isn't the problem; systemic oppression and rape culture is.
Words can be as harmful as a physical assault.
That says a lot about beauty standards, particularly around aging.
The beauty standard certainly needs to evolve to be more inclusive. Thank you so much for reading!
It's such a simple but powerful action. Thanks for reading!
No, thanks. I prefer my fun and excitement to be absent of misogyny and rape culture.
I agree. It is disconcerting on multiple levels.
I don't know if charm schools would be effective, but I certainly feel like furthering the cause of…
Medium has standards for a reason.
Agreed. It would be so much healthier if we all connected with each other as human beings.
I understand the desire to reclaim it, but I would personally prefer to see society evolve beyond…
Thank you for the support and for reading!
Cancel culture is simply accountability culture in action, but I agree that these thoughts are…
Sex and lust can exist without dehumanizing language or behavior.
I definitely lose interest in anyone who uses the term, but regardless of how it entered our…
The difference is systemic oppression and how inequality creates an imbalance of power.
Wow. That's a lot of mansplaining the experience of women to a woman.
Any time. I find snowflake to be complimentary. MILF, however, is not.
In a patriarchal society, it’s not an assumption.
When I replied to the message, I acknowledged that he likely thought it was a compliment and…
I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you for reading. I wish you so much healing!
It is. Every time I see another life lost, I think of all the loved ones left behind.
It's so sad! So much unnecessary loss!
It's such a startling realization, isn't it? Thank you for reading!
It truly is! Thank you for reading.
Thank you for this lovely comment and for reading!
Thank you, Becca! I appreciate that!
We really do. It's incredibly important. Thank you for reading!
Absolutely agree! Thank you for reading!
That's such a wonderful compliment! Thank you for reading!
Thank you so much for reading!
That's exactly how it feels at first!
I'm so glad it was helpful to you.
You are most welcome! Thank you so much for reading. I'm practicing right there along with you!
Thank you! I hope one day we can trust the peace. I know I'm a work-in-progress.
Absolutely! This is such a powerful place to be in our healing. Thank you for reading!
I'm so glad it was helpful to you.
Actually, I've written about it before-- a few years ago.
Women who are or are not celebrities and who are also mothers are allowed to be vibrant and sexual…
It definitely communicates men who respect women and those who don't.
Or Misogynistic Immature Lonely Fellow? lol Thanks for reading!
Of all the ways to communicate attraction, this one is among the worst!
Your perspective isn't mature; it's misogynistic.
This is the difference between being sexualized as a man in a patriarchal society and being…
Agreed. It's demeaning. I hate cougar equally.
Translation: women who aren't fussed about their own oppression or objectification.
I believe your mother is right about men and women.
Social media has been around much longer than COVID, and rape culture has been around even longer.
Exactly! Self-love is such an important part of understanding how we deserve to be treated.
OnlyFans exist because there are many people who are happy to participate in these types of…
I cannot speak outside my experience, but I can say that the term MILF is offensive, degrading…
Subtracting misogyny from intention would certainly help the process.
Thanks for the encouragement and for reading. EMDR has been literally life-changing!
I recommend EMDR to anyone who has suffered a trauma!
There's so much to learn from these experiences.
That's a great way to look at it!
I write often enough not to need to formally journal, and I was doing weekly sessions.
I find that happens often. Processing and healing them is so important!
It's been an ongoing lesson for me. Thanks for reading!
Motherhood likely has nothing to do with the sexual experience or knowing what we want.
I agree. We can experience desire without objectifying another person. Thank you for reading!
I think we can agree it should never be used at all.
I don't feel that the answer is objectifying men.
I told him that I realize he intended it as a compliment, but that it is a misogynistic and…
Once again: I personally have never heard a woman use this term.
It's created by porn culture and has been around a long time.
Exactly. It's demeaning. Thanks for reading!
The child's story is adorable.
Awareness is a start! Thank you for reading!
I'm 39, and it's widely known in dating culture in the U.S.
All of this! It's completely unnecessary--and unkind. Thank you for reading!
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